Are you always on the go? Busy making things happen on the job, in your business, or at home? When people see you, do they think of you as a successful and powerful woman? I can recognize this kind of woman in a split second.
She is normally a very successful entrepreneur or executive on her job. She carries herself very well, she is always improving herself by taking more courses or programs, going back to school or simply reading everything she can get her hands on about improving her life. She dresses well, lives in a great house and drives a really nice car.
While externally, she does have all the markings of success, but in many cases, if you were to take peek inside, would you really see the same thing? This is a question that all successful women must ask themselves. In my program “I’m not that Woman…Your Breakthrough to Love and Money,” I call this woman the Superwoman Daughter Archetype.
The Superwoman Daughter is a Fatherless Daughter, a woman who grew up with an absentee father…a dad who was absent either physically or emotionally, or both. This woman moves at the speed of lightning, she is has an unquenchable thirst or need to be better or perfect. Who she has become through all of her work and effort is never enough. She has to do more and she has to be more. While there is nothing wrong with self improvement and self mastery, I am all for that. But when your quest for improvement comes from a place of need for acceptance and the need to be perfect, this journey can be met with lots of pain. Knowing that you are already amazing and enough, but merely wanting to embrace a bigger expansion of who you are would be a more pleasurable goal.
Most Superwoman Daughters come from a real place of need. Her relationships are
strained because she fears being controlled by anyone and her take charge attitude has cost her real happiness within her relationships. She is what I call an “Extinguisher” when it comes to her love styles and patterns, where she quickly extinguishes the passion and love right out of her relationships due to her controlling and overbearing attitude. She is controlling, secretive and even sometimes combative within her relationships. This is because she believes that if she is in control and perfect, that she is safe and they want leave or hurt her.
She earns very good mo.ney, but she finds it difficult to hold onto it, because she is a pretender when it comes to money matters. She is usually in lots of debts and has a difficult time managing her mo.ney because of the deeper feelings of shame that comes with prosperity.
The Superwoman Daughter’s daddy wounds come from her underlying belief and controlling desire that says, “I want my daddy to protect me, validate me and accept me.”
If the Superwoman Daughter doesn’t deal with her daddy wounds, she will continue to push love and money away from her life. In addition, she will continue this never ending cycle for self improvement and self mastery, while at the same time never really achieving neither.
The validation that she didn’t receive growing up can be replaced with a deep realization that she is already enough and that makes it okay to be who she is. In realizing this and downloading it to a deeper level, she will understand that she no longer has to do anything to receive real love. She simply has to “be.” Sure we all need help clearing those old beliefs that no longer serve us and replacing them with ones that do, but we can know that we are the best that we can be right now. And for some reason, in God’s mind…that is enough!! You don’t have to be anyone’s Superwoman! You are God’s chosen daughter and at the end of the day, that really is all that matters!
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